I never bother him at night, I go ahead and get up to quite him so he doesnt wake my husband who works very long hours. Omg, I hate that. But, I highly recommend you consult a dog behaviorist prior to meeting a relationship advisor. I accepted I have sweep twice per day until my husband gracious decided he would rescue another dog a min pin couple weeks ago who is about 2years old not house broken and use our home including all bedroom as his personal bathroom. What pisses me off greatly is, his dog has nipped my kids and I have calmy told my kids not too play rough etc. She is terrified of him she can sense he does not like her. The dog doesnt bark insistently. I tried to explain the logics behind this big problem but Im just told he cant refuse or say no because it was a gift. My SO doesnt want her outside and cant manage to find the time to train her. Questions or concerns about the preceding article can be directed to the author or posted as a comment below. Need help with your relationship? I dont see the need but they will keep following me around & staring at me which drives me crazy. I just want to be able to go home after a long day at work, decompress, relax, and enjoy my life. Hitting an animal is never acceptable a puppy is just like a baby it needs love and attenion he learns from play just like children. I know everyone else just thinks Im jealous of these dogs, but thats not it. Now I demanded some things change, whereas before he was able to do whatever and be left alone the dog came into this house pooping everywhere, being defiant, acting super and extra needy, etc. From the beginning, Mango slept in our bedwhether between us or just near me. You deserve a normal relationship just like anybody else but it is obvious that your not going to find it there. His comment killed me, i can love his dog instead . The counselor said, it isnt you. He has two old dogs. I dont dislike pets but they have their own place-my bed is not that! Jennifer: You need to either leave the boyfriend, or give the dog to a family or owner who will care for the dog and not mistreat it. Since he never had kids, he says that his dog is the kid he never had. We need a support group to help each other! My first dog was older when they met and therefore very sedate, the second dog. I also have to watch them when hes out of town which is several times a year. This brings me to the current day. I keep telling him that this dog will also calm down and how everybody we meet on walks thinks my dog is amazing, he is happy to see everybody and cuddles for a few minutes and then is ready to move on. It can be considered the middle but if your partner is like me, the dog can pose serious health problems. Instead Ive tried suggesting that he is not allowed in the kitchen or bedrooms. And also, you might want to checking out some good books on marriage and relationships. At this point, a year and a half later, Im tired of hearing the same complaints day after day. I thought it spoke volumes of their relationship. We love each other very much but this situation is putting a strain on our relationship, he says he doesnt understand as I used to like her at first, I genuinely did but when I realised what it was like to live with her things changed. Let me be clear he picked out the dog, it was his idea, and he was very emotional about it. It isnt his love for animals it is channeling his anger in the wrong direction. Anyone who knows labs knows that they have two coats and shed INCESSANTLY. Theres no excuse for peeing in the floor. I am so glad I found this site because I have nobody to vent to. I understand your reason for giving away your dog and you are not wrong at all for this. She sheds 24/7 and no this is not an exaggeration. Im willing to work something out with the dog/chewing situation but weve tried everything we can think of. She had a seizure and yelped and again wouldnt let me pick her up and I was about to give up and take her to the pound. She wants to please and have my approval, and I researched ways to train, so I think most bad dogs have bad lazy owners. That means, they just have to bark and misbehave and she will cave! Its called proper training and reminding the dog that they are a dog and not a human. I have to lint roll my entire outfit before I leave for work in the morning when i stay at his house. Even after a grooming she still emits a doggy aroma. Plus the dog is actually better trained than most dogs and hangs on every word of his owner. Assistir Sheffield Utd X Tottenham - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. Now, you cant leave the dog home alone for any longer than ten minuteshe destroys the carpet ripping and clawinghe craps in the house BC the grass is too long for himand oh dear god when theres snow?? He said he was fine with my poodles before we got married, but now wants them gone. I am not a dog nut. So I put the dog in its kennel and turned the lights off. I love my dogbut she is a dog. When I mention these things I instantly become a giant A hole. She is okay sleeping in her bed,but is preferring to sleep up next to me. Not to sound morbid but when the dog passes things will be easier and just dont get another. If you change something it needs to be repeated again and again until they get it. She stained the carpets so bad that Im embarrassed to have company over. Then try baby gating her after that with lots of good chew toys and music on he radio versus crating. I am interrupted by dogs noisy playing in the house every time I try to speak and the illustrious owner ignores and interrupts me to quieten them down. So recently I had a baby girl, and my husband has a 2 year old pit-bull. On top of the shedding is the incessant dog smell. Of course, my bf thinks this is all cute and wonderful. Or you can buy a toddler bed. Getty Images. Follow his advice 100% clearly if you really need to keep the dog. He far as takes her to the bathroom with him. Some of them also found it odd that, as a dog owner, Im perfectly fine with the fact that some people dont like dogs. Her constant whining has left me sleepless lately and Im trying some new techniques as she sleeps in the kennel. The dog acts out, becomes even more needy, which only breeds guilt in their owner, so they turn their focus away from their relationship to focus solely on the dog again and boom, the issues start! I attempt to talk to him but he says I must not care enough about him since I dont want to take care of them. Omg I was so scared and I thought I was going to loose him! I did my best to share responsibilities; feed, walk, vet, snuggle with the pup. I knew this dog was hurting. I would have to draw the line at having dogs in the bed with me. I dont think thats an unfair and unreasonable request considering all that I would be giving up to be with him. I called her out on this and she got extremely defensive and proceeded to tell me how crazy I am. I hate her. When Im upset about hair or stinkiness in the home due to his dog I have to tell him. Now it stinks and has nasty hair all over it. This guy sounds ije a jerk. One of each. Thankfully the cat is fine now. I am not going to say I dont know what to do, because I do, we both need to sit down and resolve this, the outcome is never easy, and that is why it takes us so long to do something about it. I am 32, and this dog will probably live another 3-5 years. Pets are creatures of habit, and cannot be transferred from home to home like a toy just because someone doesnt want them around. Honestly, Logan had great points about talking and compromising with your SO in order to have a relationship that benefits everyone (including your dog). This is every minute shes around anyone. I am now sleeping on the couch. I am miserable bc I am not sure if I am allergic to him, or its just my plain old allergies that I had before. Now it's almost a year later and I get up hours earlier than I have to to take the dog on a walk and do some training. Hate the smell of dog full stop. Chihuahuas love warm! I have a dog as well, and like you, I hate having fur everywhere. My dog has been at my parents for a month and now my wife says she does not want her back. He trained him to use a dog litter box & always kept him in a cage ( big outdoor sized cage that he kept in extra bedroom of his house) bc the dog was never actually house trainedpees everywhere, marks territory all over the place, poops on any rug he sees, charges after people, will bite if anyone touches his ears, will actually lay in his littler box full of pee & poop.the definition of nasty & disgusting! Its all about me type of person. Nails hitting the hardwood floor?? She wants to go with me to see my friend and his wife and baby in Florida, but I dont see it happening. I am still sad but know it is for the best and that I would never be happy. Bf still makes attempts to pretend it was ME. Why do you want to violate someone elses free will? So to be honest to myself and to my husband, I did get the third dog because for the first time I wanted to have MY own dog. He stuck to his decision. Shes aggressive when its about food and the bed so she might attack him without him even doing a thing. I guess hearing your story has helped me realise even more I need to end it. But if this situation doesnt improve, I cannot be with someone like this. I did not want another dog. Well I was in a toxic relationship for almost a year trying to help my now-ex overcome his addiction. I have a dashchund and my husband is so jealous of him.he only shouts at him when poor soul does not even do anyyhing wrong. An infant is unable to comprehend parental love until their memory begins to prove around the age of 3. Your bf will never be that person. Unless royalty. Its just sick sick sick!!! Remember its your dogs not his. My family always let the dogs stay inside. We came into the marriage my spouse knowing that I do not like animals. I have an African Grey and my sinned deceased husband had 2 blue & gold macaws. Thats over the line.but he refuses to act on it . No MORE! I have bought a pretend, fur real, cat to sit in my lap, its not the same. Otherwise, the dog was great. this puppy is scared and looks at me for comfort. Isnt that crazy?! It is unfair to make demands like this of someone else. and to imagine I used to love cats and dogs.. had many over the years but I really am done!!! Its just nasty and gross! They stink so bad. If I say they need put to sleep he gets extremely upset and wont hear of it. I told her No! We love our dog, but we do NOT treat him like a human child because hes not one. End the relationship before opting for violence!!! We moved into a house at the beginning of last year and he brought his old dog with him. Most importantly, you need to control yourself while talking without starting a quarrel. She was too in love with her dogs to have a human relationship. My cat generally keeps to herself but the problem is that she has the worst meow/howl noise when she wants to go in or out. He has never had a pet in his life and I am at the point where I would like to add a cat to the equation. In fact, whats the point of adopting a dog if you cannot care about him. Please fill out all required fields to submit your message. I am seeking advice about a present situation I have with my spouse about his dog. I never wanted her d*** greyhound and I certainly am not OK with the husky either. In fact, its better to invest some money on a fence and have a fenced backyard where the perfect nature to adopt a dog that can let him walk, roam, run, and play on their own with lack of limitations. When you do your relationship with your dog and SO will be alot more successful. Thank you. What Ive come to understand is that they dont really love dogs: they love that their friend unambiguously puts them at the top, that never talks back, never disagrees, that displays absolute loyalty no matter how awful the behavior. A partner than doesnt take care of their dog, doesnt train it, give it exercise or give it what it needs ( not wants) is the problem not the dog. She didnt beg or whine constantly. I dont know what to do this dog is nice (I guess) but has flaws that far outweigh the positives Its beginning to tear my girlfriend and I apart because I cant grow to like this dog I know its probably selfish of me, but I cant snap out of this attitude. Hi Logan, I am living the same situation with my bf. Its treated better than me. I had a different situation up until this past weekend. Get help from relationship advice: Getting advice from a relationship expert would really help. I cant continue to live in the house with this dog and his behavior. She said, He loves (emphasis) his dog! Love is like a bank account, you make deposits and withdrawals. But in reality.. NO. If you really dont have sufficient time to set aside your canine friend, check in your neighborhood. If you still cannot someone, its better to interview several people and give the dog to someone you totally believe and feel comfortable with. I am fighting a losing battle. A dog and a cat knows right from wrong. Not a fan of big dogs at all. I was running to emergency vets every 2 weeks. So when he tells my dog to do something he freezes like he is in trouble and this frustrates my husband as well. As humans we are supposed to have some capacity of having emotional responses to animals that are completely different to those that we have of people! Family too but the dog will stay. But my dogs have never slept in my room. I cant get close to him because she gets in the way and he allows it. Dog people will try to tell you that you shouldnt mind having your life covered in fur, but folks like you and me arent trying to hear that nonsense. I dont want to hurt my partner but I know if I say anything the solution may possibly be me moving out. You cant change it. It was fine until the dog got older and bigger. He wont even consider me looking after a friends cat at our house for a week, thats how much he Dislikes pets. Im also making a change myself and I told him that he needs to be patient and let us both adapt but his negativity is really starting too exceed the limits of my patience. 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